if you email me & Hear crickets… read this!

I just tried writing back to a lovely new reader named Annie and got a notification that her email address doesn't exist. 😖 This sucks, but in the interest of making lemonade out of a lemon, it inspired me to create this policy about contacting me.

THE VERY BEST way to reach me is via email: jekka@jekkawilde.com.

I am terrible at checking social media DMs. Honestly, I’m better at keeping dentist appointments than answering messages on Instagram. This is a “me” thing, not a “you” thing. 💜

If you’ve emailed me and haven’t heard back in a week, please feel free to give me a nudge. I’m not a bear — you can poke me! I do my best to respond to every reader who takes the time to reach out, because I genuinely appreciate each of you. And not just because you buy my books and merch (though that’s amazing).

It’s because you’ve connected with parts of my imagination I never used to share with anyone — and instead of running for the hills, you leaned in. You make me feel seen in ways I never expected, and that’s priceless. That said, I fiercely protect my writing time, my sanity, and my towering stack of books still waiting to be read.

If you don’t get a reply right away, don’t panic — I see you, I appreciate you, and I will get back to you. But if it’s been 7–10 days and still nothing, it might be a tech glitch like the one with Annie. I’d rather you check in than think I didn’t care.

TL;DR: If it’s been more than a week and your email’s gone unanswered, send me a quick follow-up. I’m either buried in writing mode or hiding from my inbox with a matcha latte and a pile of dogs.

Love y’all! Stay wicked.


If you’ve ever sent me a message through my website (which goes to my inbox) or emailed me directly and didn’t hear back within a week or so, PLEASE feel free to give me a little nudge! I'm not a bear—you can poke me! I do my best to reply to all my readers who take the time to reach out, because holy hell, I appreciate the shit out of each and every one of you. And not just because you buy my books and merch (though, seriously, that’s fucking amazing).

It’s because you’ve seen parts of me I never used to share with ANYONE—you've seen my most twisted thoughts, my darkest fantasies—and instead of running for the hills, you leaned in. You wanted more. You make me feel seen in ways I never expected, and that? That’s priceless. That said, I also fiercely protect my writing time, my sanity, and the dangerously high stack of books I still want to read.

However I die, it will not be from boredom. 😂

If you email me and don’t get an immediate reply, don’t panic—I see you, I appreciate you, and I will get back to you (eventually). But if it's going on 7-10 days and all you get is crickets, it might be a technical error like what happened with our girl Annie. I'd rather you check in with me than ever feel like I didn't care enough to respond to you. I genuinely love connecting with y'all. Connection gives me LIFE. I also love connecting with my large circle of friends and family, my multiple fur babies, and above all, Mr. Wilde…especially for "consulting purposes." (Let’s be real, these books don’t write themselves). 😂🥵🔥

TL;DR: If it’s been 7-10 days and your email was left on read, gimme a nudge. I’m either deep in my villain era writing spicy chaos for you, or aggressively avoiding my inbox with a matcha latte in my hand and a bunch of dogs in my lap.

Love y’all! Stay wicked.